Traditionally, a stepfamily is the family one acquires when a parent enters a new marriage, whether the parent was widowed or divorced. Family denotes a group of People affiliated by consanguinity affinity or co-residence A parent is a Father or Mother; one who sires or gives NOTICE TO WOULD-BE ROMEOS ************** WIDOW is a full-length Album recorded by British rock band Ritual released in 1983 Divorce or dissolution of marriage is the termination of a Marriage. For example, if one's mother dies and one's father marries another woman, the new woman is one's stepmother. "Mom" "Mum" and "Mommy" redirect here Death is the termination of the biological functions that define living Organisms It refers both to a specific The father is defined as the Male Parent of an offspring The Adjective "paternal" refers to father parallel to "maternal" for The counseling slogan "Stepfamilies are born out of loss" applies to such a case.
In modern stepfamilies, there is recognition that the biological parents may never have married. A parent is a Father or Mother; one who sires or gives Unless one biological parent of a stepchild is deceased, typical nuclear stepfamilies do not live in one house, consisting of three or more parents, biological and otherwise. It is also possible, in a less strict sense, that the new mate chooses the role of full- or part-time caregiver without marital commitment. However, it is generally understood that after a "child" reaches adulthood, a parent's subsequent marriage cannot create a stepparent relationship without the adult "child's" express written consent.
In a simple stepfamily, only one stepparent has a prior child or children. Usually this is thought of in terms of minors, but the children of a stepfamily can also be adults. Stepbrothers and stepsisters exist in a blended, or complex stepfamily. In any case, any subsequent children fathered through the new marriage are one's half-siblings instead of stepsiblings, being related through one blood line, that of the one biological parent. "Heir" and "Heiress" redirect here For the men and women fragrances endorsed by Paris Hilton see Heiress (fragrance. Having a new child does not change the identity of a stepfamily, nor does legal stepchild adoption. Adoption is the act of legally placing a child with a Parent or parents other than those to whom they were born 
The earliest recorded use of the prefix step-, in the form steop-, is from an 8th century glossary of Latin-Old English words. The 8th century is the period from 701 to 800 in accordance with the Julian calendar in the Christian / Common Era. See also List of glossaries A glossary is a list of terms in a particular domain of knowledge with the definitions for those terms Latin ( lingua Latīna, laˈtiːna is an Italic language, historically spoken in Latium and Ancient Rome. Steopsunu is given for the Latin word filiaster and steopmoder for nouerca. Similar words recorded later in Old English include stepbairn, stepchild and stepfather. The words are used to denote a connection resulting from the remarriage of a widowed parent and are related to the word ástíeped meaning bereaved, with stepbairn and stepchild occasionally used simply as synonyms for orphan. This article deals with the general meaning of the term "synonym" Words such as step-brother, step-niece and step-parent appeared much later and do not have any particular connotation with bereavement. Corresponding words in other Germanic languages include: Old High German stiuf- and Old Norse stjúp-. The Germanic languages are a group of related languages that constitute a branch of the Indo-European (IE Language family. Old Norse is the North Germanic language that was spoken by inhabitants of Scandinavia and inhabitants of their overseas settlements during the Viking Age 
Although, historically, stepfamilies are built through the institution of marriage, and are legally recognized, it is currently unclear if a stepfamily can be both established and recognized by less formal arrangements, such as when a man or woman with children cohabits with another man or woman outside of marriage. Institutions are structures and mechanisms of Social order and Cooperation governing the Behavior of a Set of Individuals This relationship is becoming more common in all Western countries. Many divorced parents, often with children, re-couple with new partners outside of traditional marriage. The word tradition comes from the Latin traditionem acc of traditio which means "a giving up delivering up surrendering" and is used in a number of
Historically and to this day, there appear to be many cultures in which these families are recognized socially, as de facto families. Culture (from the Latin cultura stemming from colere, meaning "to cultivate" generally refers to patterns of human activity and the symbolic A society is a Population of Humans characterized by patterns of relationships between individuals that share a distinctive Culture and Institutions However in modern western culture it is often unclear as what, if any, social status and protection they enjoy in law. In Sociology or Anthropology, social status is the honor or prestige attached to one's position in Society (one's Social position) Law is a system of rules enforced through a set of Institutions used as an instrument to underpin civil obedience politics economics and society
The stepparent is a "legal stranger" in most of the US and has no legal right to the minor child no matter how involved in the child's life they are. The biological parents (and, where applicable, adoptive parents) hold that privilege and responsibility. In most cases, the stepparent can not be ordered to pay child support.
With regard to unmarried couples; one can easily imagine such social and legal recognition; most notably in the case of common law marriage. Common-law marriage (or Common law marriage) sometimes called de facto marriage, informal marriage or marriage by habit and repute Unmarried couples today may also find recognition locally through community consensus. In biological terms a community is a group of interacting Organisms sharing an environment. Consensus has two common meanings One is a general agreement among the members of a given group or Community, each of which exercises some discretion in
Still it is not at all clear what formal parenting roles, rights, responsibilities and social etiquette, should exist between "stepparents" and their "stepchildren". Parenting is the process of raising and educating a Child from birth, or before until Adulthood In the case of humans it is usually Etiquette is a code that governs the expectations of Social behavior, according to the contemporary conventional norm within a Society, This often leaves the parents in unexpected conflicts with each other, their former spouses and the children. Conflict is a state of discord caused by the actual or perceived opposition of Needs values and interests
For all the confusion which stepparents may feel, it is often even less clear to the stepchildren what the interpersonal relationships are, or should be between themselves and their stepsiblings; between themselves and their stepparent; and even between themselves and their birth parents. An interpersonal relationship is a relatively long-term association between two or more people
These relationships can be extremely complex, especially in circumstances where each "step spouse" may bring children of their own to the home or in households where children are expected to actively participate in each of the newly created families of both birth parents. The household is the basic unit of analysis in many Social, Microeconomic and Government models
Although most stepfamilies can agree on what they do not want to be for one another, they are often hard pressed to agree upon what they do want to be for one another. This makes it difficult for everyone in the family to learn their roles. A role (sometimes spelled rôle) or a social role is a set of connected Behaviors Rights and Obligations as conceptualized by actors It is especially difficult for the children, because the roles and expectations of them change as they move between the homes and families of both of their birth parents.
Stepparents can become legal parents to their stepchildren through the process of stepparent adoption. Both biological parents must consent, or agree, to the adoption. When a stepparent adopts their stepchild, either the non-custodial parent of the child willingly gives up his or her parental rights to the child, or the court terminates the parental rights of a biological parent if there is evidence of abuse or neglect to the child. If a parent is not involved in the child's life, the court can terminate that biological parents rights on the grounds of abandonment. Grounds for abandonment in most states are no contact between the parent and child for at least one year.
It is important to check with local laws when looking to complete a stepparent adoption. While having the non-custodial parent consent to the adoption is the easiest way to complete a stepparent adoption, it is still possible to have one completed when they either do not consent, or cannot be located.
If the biological parent who is not involved in the child's life cannot be found, a stepparent adoption can still occur. Typically, a public notice must be published in the newspaper for 30–45 days, stating the intention to have the biological parents' rights terminated, and the intent for the stepparent to adopt the child. If the biological parent does not respond to the notice, then the stepparent adoption will continue as though the absent parent consented to the adoption.
In her book, Becoming a Stepfamily, Patricia Papernow (1993) suggests that each stepfamily goes through seven distinct stages of development, which can be divided into the Early, Middle, and Late stages. The early stages consist of the Fantasy, Immersion, and Awareness stages. In the Fantasy stage, both children and parents are typically "stuck" in their fantasies or wishes for what their family could be like. The developmental task for this stage is for each member to articulate their wants and needs. In the Immersion stage, the family is typically struggling to live out the fantasy of a "perfect" blended family. In this stage, it is critical for the "insider spouse" (i. e. the biological parent who typically forms the emotional hub of the family) to understand that the feelings of the "outsider spouse" and children are real. The task of this stage is to persist in the struggle to become aware of the various experiences. This stage is followed by the Awareness stage, in which the family gathers information about what the new family looks like (e. g. , roles, traditions, "family culture") and how each member feels about it. The tasks of this stage are twofold: individual and joint. The individual task is for each member to begin to put words to the feelings they are experiencing, and to voice their needs to other family members. The joint task is for family members to begin to transcend the "experiential gaps" and to try to form an understanding of other members' roles and experiences.
The middle stages consist of the Mobilization and Action stages. In the Mobilization stage, the step-parent can begin to step forward to address the family's process and structure. The tasks of this stage are to confront differences in each member's perception of the new family, as well as to influence one another without shaming or blaming. In the Action stage, the family begins to take action to reorganize the family structure. The goal here is to make joint decisions about new stepfamily rituals, rules, and roles. The focus in this stage is on the stepfamily's unique "middle ground" (i. e. the "areas of shared experience, shared values, and easy cooperative functioning created over time", p. 39), and on balancing this new middle ground with honoring of past and other relationships.
The later stages consist of the Contact and Resolution stages. In the Contact stage, the couple is working well together, the boundaries between households are clear, and step-parents have definite roles with step-children as "intimate outsiders. " The task for this stage is in solidifying the step-parent's role, and in continuing the process of awareness. Finally, in the Resolution stage, the step-family's identity has become secure. The family accepts itself for who it is, there is a strong sense of the step-family's middle ground, and children feel secure in both households. The task for this stage is to nourish the depth and maturity gained through this process, and to rework any issues that might arise at family "nodal events" (e. g. , weddings, funerals, graduations, etc. ).
In fiction, stepmothers are often portrayed as being wicked and evil. Evil, in many cultures is used to describe acts or thoughts which are contrary to some particular religion  The character of the wicked stepmother features heavily in fairy tales; the most famous examples are Cinderella, Snow White, and Hansel and Gretel. A fairy tale or fairy story is a fictional Story that may feature folkloric characters (such as fairies, enchantments]] often involving Cinderella ( French: Cendrillon, Slovak: Popoluška, German: Aschenputtel, Spanish: Cenicienta Snow White (in Low German Sneewittchen; in High German Schneeweißchen) is the title character of a Fairy tale known from many countries in Hansel and Gretel ( Hänsel und Gretel) is a Fairy tale of Germanic origin adapted by the Brothers Grimm and earlier by Giambattista Stepdaughters are her most common victim, and then stepdaughter/stepson pairs, but stepsons also are victims as in The Juniper Tree—sometime, as in East of the Sun and West of the Moon, because he refused to marry his stepsister as she wished, or, indeed, they may make their step-daughters-in-law their victims, as in The Boys with the Golden Stars. The Juniper Tree is a German Fairy tale collected by the Brothers Grimm. East of the Sun and West of the Moon is the Norwegian version of an old Scandinavian Fairy tale. The Boys with the Golden Stars is a Romanian Fairy tale collected in Rumanische Märchen.  In some fairy tales, such as Giambattista Basile's La Gatta Cennerentola or the Danish Green Knight, the stepmother wins the marriage by ingratiating herself with the stepdaughter, and once she obtains it, becomes cruel. Giambattista Basile (1566 or 1575 – February 23, 1632) was an Italian Poet, Courtier, and Fairy tale collector The Green Knight is a Danish Fairy tale, collected by Evald Tang Kristensen in "Eventyr fra Jylland" and by Svendt Grundtvig in Danish Fairy 
In some fairy tales, the stepdaughter's escape by marrying does not free her from her stepmother. After the birth of the stepdaughter's first child, the stepmother may attempt to murder the new mother and replace her with her own daughter—thus making her the stepmother to the next generation. Such a replacement occurs in The Wonderful Birch, Brother and Sister, and The Three Little Men in the Wood; only by foiling the stepmother's plot (and usually executing her), is the story brought to an happy ending In the Korean Folktale Janghwa Hongreyon, the stepmother kills her own stepdaughters. The Wonderful Birch is a Finnish Fairy tale. A variant on Cinderella, it is Aarne-Thompson folktale type 510A the persecuted heroine Brother and Sister is a well known European Fairy tale which was among others written down by the Brothers Grimm in their collection of Children's The Three Little Men in the Wood or The Three Dwarfs is a German Fairy tale collected by the Brothers Grimm, number 13
Fairy tales can have variants where one tale has an evil mother and the other an evil stepmother: in The Six Swans, the heroine is persecuted by her husband's mother, and in The Twelve Wild Ducks, by his stepmother. The Six Swans is a German Fairy tale collected by the Brothers Grimm. The Twelve Wild Ducks is a Norwegian Fairy tale collected by Peter Christen Asbjørnsen and Jørgen Moe in Norske Folkeeventyr. Sometimes this appears to be a deliberate switch: the Brothers Grimm, having put in their first editions versions of Snow White and Hansel and Gretel where the villain was the mother, altered it to a stepmother in later editions, perhaps to mitigate the story's violence. The Brothers Grimm ( German: Die Gebrüder Grimm) Jacob and Wilhelm Grimm, Snow White (in Low German Sneewittchen; in High German Schneeweißchen) is the title character of a Fairy tale known from many countries in Hansel and Gretel ( Hänsel und Gretel) is a Fairy tale of Germanic origin adapted by the Brothers Grimm and earlier by Giambattista  The Icelandic fairy tale The Horse Gullfaxi and the Sword Gunnfoder features a good stepmother, who indeed aids the prince like a fairy godmother, but this figure is very rare in fairy tales. The Horse Gullfaxi and the Sword Gunnfoder is an Icelandic Fairy tale from Islandische Märchen. In Fairy tales a fairy godmother is a Fairy with magical powers who acts as a Mentor or Parent to someone in the role that an actual
The stepmother may be identified with other evils the characters meet. For instance, both the stepmother and the witch in Hansel and Gretel are deeply concerned with food, the stepmother to avoid hunger, the witch with her house built of food and her desire to eat the children, and when the children kill the witch and return home, their stepmother has mysteriously died. 
In many stories with evil stepmothers, the hostility between the stepmother and the stepchild is underscored by having the child succeed through aid from the dead mother.  This motif occurs from Norse mythology, where Svipdagr rouses his mother Gróa from the grave so as to learn from her how to accomplish a task his stepmother set, to fairy tales such as the Brothers Grimm version of Cinderella, where Aschenputtel receives her clothing from a tree growing on her mother's grave, the Russian Vasilissa the Beautiful, where Vasilissa is aided by a doll her mother gave, and her mother's blessing, and the Malay Bawang Putih Bawang Merah, where the heroine's mother comes back as fish to protect her. Norse mythology comprises the indigenous pre-Christian religion, beliefs and Legends of the Scandinavian peoples including those who settled on Iceland Svipdag ( Old Norse "sudden day" is the hero of the two Old Norse Eddaic poems, Grógaldr and Fjölsvinnsmál, which In Norse mythology, Gróa ( Old Norse "growing" is a Völva and practitioner of seiðr, the wife of Aurvandil the Bold The Brothers Grimm ( German: Die Gebrüder Grimm) Jacob and Wilhelm Grimm, Cinderella ( French: Cendrillon, Slovak: Popoluška, German: Aschenputtel, Spanish: Cenicienta Bawang Putih Bawang Merah is one of the more famous of old Malay archipelago Folktales, passed down orally through the generations
This hostility from the stepmother and tenderness from the true mother has been interpreted in varying ways. A psychological interpretation, by Bruno Bettelheim, describes it as "splitting" the actual mother in an ideal mother and a false mother that contains what the child dislikes in the actual mother. Bruno Bettelheim ( August 28, 1903 – March 13, 1990) was a Jewish native of Austria who escaped as a refugee to the US before it entered  However, historically, many women died in childbirth, their husbands remarried, and the new stepmothers competed with the children of the first marriage for resources; the tales can be interpreted as factual conflicts from history.  In some fairy tales, such as The Juniper Tree, the stepmother's hostility is overtly the desire to secure the inheritance of her children. 
In Classic of Filial Piety, Guo Jujing told the story of Min Ziqian, who had lost his mother at a young age. Xiao Jing or Classic of Filial Piety ( alternative transliteration Hsiao Ching) is a Confucian classic Treatise giving His stepmother had two more sons and saw to it that they were warmly dressed in winter but neglected her stepson. When her husband discovered this, he decided to divorce her. His son interceded, on the ground that she neglected only him, but when they had no mother, all three sons would be neglected. His father relented, and the stepmother henceforth took care of all three children. For this, he was held up as a model of filial piety. In Confucian thought filial piety ( is one of the Virtues to be cultivated a love and respect for one's parents and ancestors
The ubiquity of the wicked stepmother has made it a frequent theme of revisionist fairytale fantasy. In fiction revisionism is the retelling of a story or type of story with substantial alterations in character or environment to "revise" the view shown in the original work Fairytale fantasy is distinguished from other subgenres of Fantasy by the works' heavy use of motifs and often plots from folklore This can range from Tanith Lee's Red as Blood, where the stepmother queen is desperately trying to protect the land from her evil stepdaughter's magic, to Diana Wynne Jones's Howl's Moving Castle, where, although it is known that stepmothers are evil, the actual stepmother is guilty of nothing more than some carelessness, to Erma Bombeck's retelling where Cinderella is lazy and a liar. Tanith Lee (born September 19, 1947) is a British Writer of Science fiction, horror and Fantasy. Diana Wynne Jones (born London 16 August 1934 is a British writer principally of Fantasy novels for children and adults as well as a small Howl's Moving Castle is a young adult fantasy novel by British author Diana Wynne Jones, first published in 1986 Erma Louise Bombeck ( February 21 1927 – April 22, 1996) born Erma Fiste, was an American Humorist who achieved Cinderella ( French: Cendrillon, Slovak: Popoluška, German: Aschenputtel, Spanish: Cenicienta More subtly, Piers Anthony depicted the Princess Threnody as being cursed by her stepmother in Crewel Lye: A Caustic Yarn: if she ever entered Castle Roogna, it would fall down. Piers Anthony Dillingham Jacob (born August 6, 1934 in Oxford England) is an English American writer in the Science fiction Crewel Lye A Caustic Yarn is the eighth book of the Xanth series by Piers Anthony. But Threnody explains that her presence at the castle caused her father to dote on her and neglect his duties to the destruction of the kingdom; her stepmother had merely made her destructive potential literal, and forced her to confront what she was doing.
Despite many examples of evil or cruel stepmothers, loving stepmothers also exist in fiction. In Kevin and Kell, Kell is portrayed as loving her stepdaughter Lindesfarne, whom her husband Kevin had adopted during his previous marriage. Kevin and Kell is a furry Comedy Webcomic strip by syndicated Cartoonist Bill Holbrook. Likewise, Lindesfarne considers Kell her mother, and has a considerably more favorable view of her than Angelique, Kevin's ex-wife and her adoptive mother, due to feeling neglected by Angelique during her childhood. The Disney film Enchanted also makes references to the "evil stepmother" belief, as the villianess is a stepmother, but her wickedness comes from her selfishness and power hungriness rather than the simple fact she is stepmother. When a little girl tells the heroine, Princess Giselle, that all stepmothers are evil, Giselle reminds her that she personally knows some wonderful women who were good stepmothers, and the fact a woman is a stepmother does not suddenly change her personality. This is shown later on when Giselle gets married to a man with a daughter from a previous marriage, thus becoming a stepmother herself. As Giselle is a sweet and caring woman, she makes a good wife and mother.
Though rarer, there are also cases of evil stepfathers, such as in the fairy tales The Gold-bearded Man (in a plot usually featuring a cruel father) and The Little Bull-Calf. The Gold-bearded Man is a Hungarian Fairy tale collected in Ungarische Mahrchen. The Little Bull-Calf is an English Gypsy Fairy tale collected by Joseph Jacobs in More English Fairy Tales. One type of such tales features a defeated villain who insists on marrying the hero's mother and makes her help him trick the hero and so defeat him. Such tales include The Prince and the Princess in the Forest and The Blue Belt, although the tales of this type can also feature a different female relation, such as the stepsister in The Three Princes and their Beasts. The Prince and the Princess in the Forest is a Danish Fairy tale. The Blue Belt is a Norwegian Fairy tale collected by Peter Christen Asbjørnsen and Jørgen Moe in Norske Folkeeventyr. The Three Princes and their Beasts is a Lithuanian Fairy tale.
In literature, evil stepfathers include Claudius in Hamlet (though his role as uncle is more emphasized), Murdstone in Charles Dickens's David Copperfield, the classic Twilight Zone episode, "Living Doll" the King from the movie Radio Flyer,and Gozaburo Kaiba (who adopted Seto and Mokuba Kaiba) from Yu-Gi-Oh!, as well as The Stepfather films. Hamlet is a Tragedy by William Shakespeare, believed to have been written between 1599 and 1601 David Copperfield or The Personal History Adventures Experience and Observation of David Copperfield the Younger of Blunderstone Rookery (which he never meant to publish The Twilight Zone is an American Television series created by Rod Serling. Radio Flyer is an American Toy company best known for their popular red wagon. is a Japanese Manga created by Kazuki Takahashi, which has spawned a franchise including multiple Anime series a trading card game and numerous video The Stepfather is a 1987 American Thriller film starring Terry O'Quinn in the title role
In his opera La Cenerentola, Gioacchino Rossini inverted the tale of Cinderella to have her oppressed by her stepfather. La Cenerentola ossia La bontà in trionfo ( Cinderella or Goodness Triumphant) is an Operatic Dramma giocoso in two acts by Gioacchino His motive is made explicit, in that providing a dowry to Cenerentola would cut into what he can give to his own daughters An analogous male figure may also appear as a wicked uncle; like the stepmother, the father's brother may covet the child's inheritance for his own children, and so maltreat his nephews or nieces. A dowry (also known as trousseau or tocher) is the money goods or estate that a woman brings to her soon to be husband in marriage Modern films, however, seem to cast stepfathers in a somewhat kinder light, implying honorable men who marry divorced women or single mothers make good stepfathers.
In fairy tales, stepsiblings and half-siblings can but need not take after their mother. Cinderella and Mother Hulda feature wicked stepsisters and The Wonderful Birch a wicked half-sister, but The Rose-Tree and The Juniper Tree feature loving half-siblings, and Kate Crackernuts loving stepsisters. Cinderella ( French: Cendrillon, Slovak: Popoluška, German: Aschenputtel, Spanish: Cenicienta Mother Hulda is a German Fairy tale collected by the Brothers Grimm and first published in 1812 as part of Children's and Household The Wonderful Birch is a Finnish Fairy tale. A variant on Cinderella, it is Aarne-Thompson folktale type 510A the persecuted heroine The Rose-Tree is an English Fairy tale collected by Joseph Jacobs in English Fairy Tales. The Juniper Tree is a German Fairy tale collected by the Brothers Grimm. Katie Crackernuts or Kate Crackernuts is a Scottish Fairy tale collected by Andrew Lang in the Orkneys and published it in Longman's Magazine 
Many romance novels feature heroes who are the stepbrother of the heroine. A romance novel is a literary Genre developed in Western culture, mainly in English-speaking countries The step-relationship generally stems from a marriage when the hero and heroine are at least in their adolescence.
Some family films and television sitcoms feature a stepfamily as the center premise. In many cases, the stepfamily is large and full of children causing situations such as sibling rivalry, rooming, falling in love, and getting along amongst the children as popular plotlines. The stepfamily premise dates back as far as the 1968 film Yours, Mine and Ours. Yours Mine and Ours is a 1968 Film, directed by Melville Shavelson and starring Lucille Ball, Henry Fonda and Van This film gave way to a classic family television sitcom about a blended family known as The Brady Bunch. The Brady Bunch is an American Television Situation comedy based around a large blended family. Some contemporary family sitcoms have made the blended family sitcom more popular with the TGIF show Step by Step bringing about other shows such as Aliens in the Family, Life with Derek, Drake & Josh, and the short lived NBC family sitcom Something So Right. Step by Step is an American television sitcom which aired on ABC from September 20, 1991 to August 15, Aliens in the Family is a short-lived American sci-fi / fantasy sitcom that aired on ABC, conceived as part of its then Life with Derek is a Canadian Sitcom that is currently being aired on Family Channel (English and VRAK Drake & Josh is an American sitcom shown on the Nickelodeon television network, starring the two stepbrothers Drake Parker ( Drake Bell The National Broadcasting Company ( NBC) is an American Television network headquartered in the GE Building in New York City's Something So Right was a relatively short-lived American television Situation comedy which ran on two different networks during its brief time Kevin and Kell is a comic strip that focuses on a blended family. Kevin and Kell is a furry Comedy Webcomic strip by syndicated Cartoonist Bill Holbrook.
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